If you have been in the job search for very long, there is one question you hate to be asked: “So how is the job search going?” While people ask this question with the best intentions, the recipient actually hears “Why haven’t you found a job?” The job seeker feels like he or she has been knocked down yet another peg. Admit it.
Instead of feeling defensive and defeated, I challenge you to use this as a great opportunity to ask for advice and help. Be honest yet genuinely interested in receiving guidance and direction. If people ask you about your job search, they might also be very open to offering you guidance as well.
A good response when someone asks you about your job search might go something like this: “I have been networking and sending out resumes; however, I have not secured any offers to date. If you are interested and willing to do so, I would really appreciate sitting down with you for a few minutes to get your input.” Depending on your relationship with this person your questions may range from general to quite specific.
The next time someone asks you how your job search is going don’t answer with “fine” or something sarcastic and walk away. If you are in the job search, you need as many cheerleaders and champions as you can get. Ask advice from anyone who shows an interest in helping you. And remember that just because you receive advice doesn’t mean you have to act on it, but you never know where you will find your most beneficial contacts and job leads. Keep all doors WIDE open.